How do you learn to be alone? There’s a difference between being lonely and being alone. I have never, in my life, up to now, been lonely. But now… Mom and Dad are gone, my wife has left, and the only close family I have left is my sister. And she doesn’t really want me living in her rec room as I am. I can’t blame her… she’s not being unfriendly… it’s just that no matter how small a footprint I try to leave, I am disruptive to the life she enjoys with her daughter, my niece.
All my life, I’ve been a social guy. I love being married to the person I thought would be my partner for life. I love getting together with friends….. sharing a drink and a meal, with lots of good conversation… and I have a great many wonderful friends. But they’re all miles from here, primarily in Pennsylvania and Florida. So there’s no human contact. But still, those incredible friends have put up with me and my problems for longer than I could reasonably expect.
The nature of my job pretty much precludes getting settled into the community and becoming involved, at least until I can find a way to stay put for awhile. Even at that, at my age, finding someone to love from here on out seems like a remote possibility.
So, how does one learn to be alone? There are many people out there… some of whom I have talked with.. who are perfectly happy by themselves. I liked being married. I liked having friends around. I love having a life partner. So how do I, now, learn to be comfortable by myself? I hear it’s possible, but it’s hard for me to get my arms around the idea. Maybe because I’d so much rather get my arms around someone who can hug me back.
How do I learn to be alone?